Getting good with girls

Getting good with girls
Having sex is one thing, making your relationship go the distance and staying happy in it is another. Sometimes you need to talk about life’s serious stuff – like the first time you do it, contraception, or the ‘L’ word. Finding out how to talk about serious stuff with your girlfriend will keep you both happy, and she’ll respect you for it.
The right time
Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to have sex – or that your girlfriend does. And even if you’ve done it once or twice, you still need to make sure she’s as keen as you are every time.
If you agree with the following – the time may be right:
It feels right.She loves me as much as I love her.We’ve talked about using condoms.I’m not under pressure.I won’t regret it tomorrowI’m not just trying to impress my mates.I’m not doing it to make her stay with me.I can stop at any point, and she’ll be fine with that.
Read more:What makes a relationship work?


Become a kissing master
Once you’ve got that first, awkward kiss out of the way, you can practice getting great at kissing!
Kissing’s one of the best bits about a relationship. As you get more used to kissing each other, you can try it with tongues or even kiss her cheeks, nose and neck in between snogs.
Be gentle when using your tongue for the first time – you want to make sure she likes it rather than sticking it down her throat!
Kissing can lead to more serious stuff, but it doesn’t have to. If she’s pushing you to take things further, talk to someone you trust.

What’s going through her mind?
Sex is a big deal for both of you – but what’s going through your girlfriend’s mind?
Trust: Most girls want to have sex with someone they love, care about and trust, taking things slowly and bonding first.
Naked truth: Lots of girls find getting their kit off in front of someone else really scary - if you think she looks great, tell her.
Baby worries: Most girls under 18 don’t want to get pregnant – carrying a condom shows you respect her and are being sensible.
Foreplay: Sex is an emotional experience for girls – they want to feel loved and respected. Spend time kissing and cuddling and don’t rush into anything until you’re both ready.
No pressure: Always take her feelings into account, never pressuring her into sex, even if you’ve done it before.

All the fun without the risks
You don’t have to go all the way to have a good time. Having sex isn’t just about penetration, there are loads of ways to enjoy sex - and they can be less risky than full-sex too.
Building up to sexIf you and your girlfriend are close enough, but still getting to know each other, kissing, touching and gradually building up to oral sex is just as much fun as going all the way. There’s no risk of pregnancy and less chance of you getting an STI.
There’s no rushEnjoying foreplay without penetration helps you relax and get to know what she does and doesn’t like. It also gives you time to decide if she’s the right person to go all the way with.
A guy's point of view
Chlamydia and the Genital Warts virus are two of the most common STIs in teenagers .
You should never give oral sex if you have sores, cuts or ulcers on your mouth or genitals – remember, you can’t get pregnant by having oral sex but you can catch STIs.